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THE GIRLS HAVE GONE…STUPID!

Earlier this spring, two articles out of the eastern portion of the United States kept me laughing heartily. One was from one major newspaper of record out of Washington D.C., and the second was from the OTHER major newspaper of record from the same city. The first article dealt with ‘why’ older Black women (32 and up) are ‘suddenly’ turning their noses up at the prospect of marriage. The second article dealt with the increase in the number of all-female gangs in the nation’s capital, many of them run by younger Black women (16 to 21)--some of them who are ALSO out-of-wedlock mothers.

What had me laughing at these two stories (which came out the same week, by the way) was my unintended reading between the lines: “Brothers, if you do decide to marry, pick a sister between 22 to 31 years old, as there is a better chance that you will avoid some of these sisters who have gone…stupid!”

THE BWS HAS BEEN ACTIVATED:

On that note, I have turned the key and activated the BWS--The Brotherhood Warning Service, as I firmly believe that more of us will be ‘asked’ about our reaction to these two throwaway pieces of modern journalism.

Here is my ‘short’ inventory that I would hope every man would remember.

Men, it was NOT that long ago that we were told ‘the lie’ of ‘more Black men are in prison than in college’. Next, we were ‘informed’ that more and more Black men were on the ‘DL’. Next, we were ‘bombed’ with the fact that Black men would not get married and LOVED the thugg life. Recently, it was stated in the MSM that regardless of how much progress we have made, Black men still ‘ain’t making it’ and are falling further and further behind. If I left out any lies besides these aforementioned flights of fantasy, please email me, Amen?

Now the slipper is on the other foot, and the lipstick and earrings have come off of some female writers. Desperate (themselves) to ‘find’ a husband (instead of waiting for God to send them one), some sisters have taken it upon themselves to police the men that they casually know and ‘declare’ that Black women are just NOT interested in getting married anymore! Let me state, for the record that I have tried to contact some of these bitter sisters. I keep telling some of these writers that alcohol, drugs, anger, depression, and keyboarding don’t mix; but no one wants to hear the truth…especially when they fail to respond to my inquiries.

‘Reverse psychology’ is not the best way to start--or maintain--a relationship.

‘Challenging’ a brothers’ manhood is not going to get you flowers or a date.

These tactics--and more--just prove, sister, that you have GONE STUPID!

WHERE IS THE CHURCH?

It is no great secret that many Black churches have been AWOL in reaching out to Black men with the gospel and the Bible on a regular, consistent basis. Many, many men have stopped going to church because the man behind many a pulpit is not really interested in the brotherhood--but in keeping the numbers up and women in the congregation attending and contributing.

We have been told that many Black churches are ‘run’ by women. Sadly, it appears, that they are not learning any ‘biblical truths’ in these estrogen-charged environments. Portions of the Bible have been erased, expunged and nullified--especially the sections where the older women are supposed to teach the younger women about serving the Lord, submitting and listening to their OWN husbands, and loving their OWN children--even IF the sister has a job and/or career outside of the home. Of course, a woman who is a wife and mother--in my view--already has a job and/or career INSIDE of the home, but this is another column for another day. Suffice it to say, brothers, that the AAW (Anxious, Angry Woman) is making a conscious effort to rise from the grave and infect male/female relationships with her misplaced venom. If more and more preachers would preach from the Bible what the responsibilities of a REAL woman are, perhaps the FAKES would scurry back underground in shame and humiliation. If the ‘holy’ sisters IN church each and every Sunday would ‘wakes up’ to their responsibilities Monday through Saturday in this matter and stop the lies about Black men published by the AAW crew from sea to shining sea, there would be no need for the brotherhood to get involved.

WOMAN--POLICE YOUR OWN RANKS!

I’ll take this a bit farther: IF the so-called ‘righteous’ women in our communities would open their mouths IN support of Black men and accentuate the positives that we do, and have done, a lot of the lies would not gain traction in the MSM. You all know who these bitter sisters/sistahs are, where they live, and where they shop. If I may be so bold, I have developed a new slogan for sisters/sistahs in the year ahead--“Woman: Police Your Own Ranks!” The Bible is very clear about whom we should keep company with, and whom we should stay away from and shun. Liars, gossipers and those who sow discord among the brethren (and sisters too) should be kept away from to the point that one cannot even sit down and eat a meal with them, let along go shopping with them.

I’ll make it plain at this point; if a woman knowingly keeps company with another woman who feels its her ‘duty’ to tear down every man she meets, who feels she just has to ‘complain’ about the dates that she has been upon via the newspaper or Internet, or feels that she must ‘whine’ about the lack of ‘real men’ (translation--men who will bow to her every whim and scheme) in society--and does NOT call her on it, she is giving consent to THAT woman to openly destroy her father, sons, brothers, uncles and other males in her family line, and other male authority figures throughout society.

Can I get an AMEN from the brotherhood?

The BWS has now ended, and the alarm key has been pocketed by yours truly for another day. However, I have one last thing on this month’s column: “Sisters, when will you step up, and force the stupid women among you to shut up?”

The men in your life are awaiting your answer…and your action.

We are not perfect sisters, but no one is lying on YOU…on a daily basis!

MIKE RAMEY is the author of THE MANHOOD LINE. A monthly, syndicated column that appears on line and in great publications around the world. It is written for men from a biblical, business, and common sense perspective. Emails welcomed to the following address: manhoodline@yahoo.com. ©2006 Mike Ramey/Barnstorm Communications International. Celebrating TEN Years in the arena of manhood.